What is self-love? Why is it important for us to love ourselves? How to practice self-love? In this article, I’ll be providing answers to all those questions that appear in your mind regarding self-love. Moreover, I’ll share some tried and tested techniques to practice or increase your love for yourself.
There are many things that we can’t change, which normally people call them as our flaws, but to be very clear, the flaws are not in you, the flaws are in their minds, the flaws are in their opinion. Stop looking at yourself through the eyes of others. Stop letting their opinion define you and your worth. Learning to accept the way you are is self-love.
To help you love yourself, I am sharing those self-love tips with you. Practice them. I am very sure you’ll see a better version of yourself.
1. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS
I’ll make it clear for you with an example. I read this somewhere a few days ago. A girl narrating her story, she said,” I wanted to come first in class when I was in school, but oftentimes I used to reach after a guy who was in the same class. I so wanted to beat that guy. I used to ask myself how that guy manages to reach before me. Why can’t I beat him? I used to put up extra efforts to reach faster than him and often got disappointed. Some days later after graduating from there, I got to know that the guy I was comparing myself with lives near the school, and I had to cover more distance to reach there since my home was far from the school”.
What did you learn from it? Don’t compare yourself to others. As long as you are tying and putting up efforts, you are doing best. Everyone has a different story that you don’t know. Comparison kills all happiness. Now you are comparing, the next moment you would feel you are less than that person and the third moment you would give up. Your circumstances are different from others. What you are going through is not similar to any other person.
Be happy with what you have and how you are. Teach yourself that yes, I am trying, I am working on things, and I am satisfied with my efforts. I don’t need to judge myself through other people’s experiences when we are not even on the same page.
2. TAKE OUT TIME FOR YOURSELF
The First thing that I want to make clear is that taking care of your self doesn’t make you a narcissist. You take out time to think about others or their happiness, but do you ask yourself what makes you happy? What do you need in your life? Thinking about others is, of course, not wrong. It’s great to keep others in your observation, but not taking care of yourself and still making others your priority is not a good thing to do.
You may have a busy schedule, but you do manage to take out time for others, so why can’t you spend some time on yourself. Go, buy yourself a shirt that you wanted to but didn’t because you wanted to spend that money on someone else. Go, eat your favorite burger or ice-cream that you haven’t eaten in a long time because you thought you would utilize that money in something else. These are the small elements that fill our lives with happiness. Once you start to love yourself, you would love others in a way better than you do now. Because now you would have much love to share. TRY THIS OUT. IT’LL SURELY HELP YOU.
3. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO CARE FOR YOU
Pay close attention to people who clap for you when you win, who motivate you when you need to hear it, who are truly there for you, who have got your back or who tell you that YES YOU CAN ACE IT, GO FOR IT, I AM HERE FOR YOU or YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY. These people play a crucial role in this self-love process. They help you to grow. Never let them go. Keep them. Tell them that you are overwhelmed by their love and affection. Appreciate them. They deserve your appreciation.
4. PRACTICE SAYING “JUST BECAUSE I’VE NOT DONE IT YET DOES NOT MEAN I COULDN’T DO IT”
Before you go to work or start something, stand in front of a mirror, look at yourself and say,” Just because I’ve not done it yet doesn’t mean I couldn’t do it”. Repeat it three times and then do whatever you want to do. This is my favorite technique. It always works for me. By practicing this, basically, you are sending a positive message to your brain. Also, it’ll boost your self-confidence, and you’ll be able to work better than before.
• My beautiful people, you deserve to be loved. Live your life to the fullest. Don’t let someone’s opinion tell you who you are and what you deserve. It is time to turn your weakness into your strength. There is nothing in this world that you can’t do. Start lifting each other up. The World needs more love and kindness. I am always here to listen to you. Try these techniques and let me know if you are facing some trouble. I’ll surely find ways to help you.