People don’t cheat by chance. They cheat by choice.Tony Gaskins
Cheating has become so prevalent in modern-day relationships. Nowadays, people consider replacing their partners instead of fixing the problem. Undoubtedly, infidelity is one of the most distressing things someone could experience in life. Sometimes, it takes years and even more for victims to come out of it, but amid the heartbreak, loneliness, the feelings of being cheated on and lied to, they still struggle to find why? Why do people cheat? Why do they betray their partner? Why do they stop caring about the love of their life?
Not getting the answer sometimes makes people see things through a negative and dark lens. They tend to blame themselves for everything, which leads to feelings of helplessness, low self-esteem, anger, and guilt. And, that’s why we are here in order to tell you that you could not be doing anything wrong, and your partner could still be tempted to cheat on you for reasons that have nothing to do with you.
Don’t let anyone manipulate you into thinking they betrayed you because you were not good enough or you were not the same. If you feel lonely or dissatisfied in a relationship, you communicate with your spouse. You don’t cheat.
Since cheating and affairs are very much common, it’s important to understand why lovers are motivated to be unfaithful.
Here Are 8 Common Reasons Why Do People Cheat
1) Falling Out Of Love
When you first fall in love with someone, everything about that person seems perfect to you. You can’t stop thinking about them and feel so overwhelmed with love and gratefulness just by their presence in your life. However, the truth is, no matter how intense those emotions were at that time, those exhilarating feelings of falling in love fade away and disappear with time.
After the glitter fades, the relationship starts to become less exciting and entertaining for some individuals, and that is when they begin to watch out for options for new thrills or excitements. Needless to say, such people never actually truly loved their partners because there’s no falling ‘in’ or ‘out’ of love. When you love someone wholeheartedly, it never dies.
2) They Are Unhappy In Their Relationship
Sometimes, the cause of betrayal in a relationship is dissatisfaction with how they are being treated. It mostly happens when there are issues with communication in the relationship. Little things turn into big things because they don’t talk about the problem, which results in them losing interest in their partner and seeking fulfillment and happiness somewhere else. But what many people don’t understand is that cheating is definitely not the way to repair what is broken in their relationship. It will only make things worse.
3) To Boost Self-esteem
People with low self-esteem tend to cheat because they want a boost to their self-confidence and ego. Getting attention from a new person makes them feel validated, empowered, and confident. The reason is not that they don’t get acknowledgment and compassion from their partner, but their insecurities convince them into thinking their spouse praises them due to relationship obligation. On the other hand, receiving admiration from someone new seems more genuine because they assume someone who is not even committed to them would never lie or exaggerate to make them feel better.
4) They Get Bored
Some people become unfaithful to their partners due to boredom, not because of a problem with an existing relationship. Just as a child gets tired of a toy after playing with it for a year or so and wants a new one, some adults don’t find pleasure and happiness in their relationship after it becomes old. Such people look for opportunities to cheat on their significant others because they think it’s a way to bring fun, adventure, and excitement back into life.
5) Out Of Anger
Often, infidelity is not a response to anger, but sometimes it’s. People cheat on their significant others out of anger because they either want to punish them or they’re frustrated in a relationship. The reasons for anger-motivated infidelity include:
- Frustration as a result of being ignored in a relationship.
- Their partner might not understand their needs.
- Angry at a significant other for not being with them most of the time.
- Frustration as a result of daily arguments and fights.
6) They Are Compulsive Liars
Compulsive lying is a condition in which a person tells lies out of habit. They lie to everybody; their family, friends, coworkers, or even partners. If you expect a compulsive liar to be genuine to you because you’re loyal to him/her, it’s nearly impossible. Being in a relationship with a compulsive liar is one of the worst things someone could experience because relationships are all about trust and honesty, which you can’t expect from a compulsive liar.
7) They Are Self-indulgent
Many people who cheat on their partners possess traits of being too self-absorbed. The unrestrained gratification of their own desires persuades them into breaking the commitment they have with their partners in such an indecent and immoral way. When these selfish people sense their significant others fail to do things as they want, they seek someone else who could give them what they need.
8) Situational Factors
The act of infidelity is not always pre-planned and encouraged by dissatisfaction with a current relationship. Some people become unfaithful to their partners simply because they get a chance to cheat. But, just an opportunity might not make it happen. The factors of the situation may also add to the motivation to cheat.
X is angry with Y (X’s Partner) and got a text from a colleague (let’s say, Z) who told X that Z is interested in X.
X might not choose to cheat on Y if many factors weren’t involved. Like, X was angry with Y, X got the attention of Z, and Z showed interest in X.
No matter what the reason, cheating on your spouse is one of the worst things you can do, and no explanation could justify this unethical act.
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